Recently I had an episode of bitter complaint. Things were not going my way, and I grumbled my way through an afternoon, annoyed, (and annoying to be around).
Eventually I chose to take my complaint and download it into my journal….positioning myself in a sunny corner of my lounge on a quiet, crisp wintery afternoon.
This was my first step towards what became an experience of contentment, where I acknowledged that my complaint was rooted in a sense of ingratitude. As I began to write, I felt the angst begin to peel away, and as my attitude changed, enabled by a humbling confession of my true state, (I say humbling because it involved another human….always harder for me to confess to another than to God! – what’s with that?), my countenance changed, somehow brightened, and the world around me took on a new shape and colour. My surroundings in fact didn’t change, rather my view of them, as I dove into raw honesty and rose back into peace.
An interesting chain of events followed that week, which may have happened regardless of this experience, but had I not undergone this moment, I would have probably missed them as gifts offered to me that were nothing less than acts of Divine hospitality, expressed by others through gestures of generous kindness.
Since then I have tried to remind myself of all that I have been given and I am pulled towards gratitude. I read the daily paper and compare my life with others that really have something to complain about. I come away troubled, yet also thankful.
I climb into a warm bed every night and sleep secure. I get up in the morning and there is always something to eat for breakfast. I load the fire with wood in the evening and set it alight. I am warm. Being grateful for these things helps me gain perspective. I have been given so much. I am content.
Dietrich Bonhoeffer said, “We pray for the big things and forget to give thanks for the ordinary, small (and yet really not small) gifts,” he said. We strive for the grand spiritual adventure, which we haven’t had, and neglect the many gifts from God that we do have. Bonhoeffer urges us to “be satisfied with the small measure of spiritual knowledge, experience, and love that has been given us.” Make a gratitude list.

